We drove directly from Sacramento to Atria, where we were
meeting Ned and Marta to have dinner with my mother and hear about Ned &
Marta's Jamaica experiences that did NOT make it to his Facebook journal.
I called her on the way to the show to tell her we were coming, but that
didn't help. She was not in her apartment when Ned and Marta got there
and I found all of them sitting in the lobby.
It was clear she was disoriented and not with it. At
one point she asked us to all stop talking for a minute so she could collect
herself. She asked frequently where her purse was (she never takes it
to the dining room) and asked who was going to pay for the meal. Ned
dominated the conversation and she would interrupt him to talk about his
grey hair.
When we returned to the apartment, the jacket she had worn
to the doctors twice last week was hanging over a chair and she asked if we
knew whose it was. When I told her it was hers and that she had just
worn it two days ago, she got angry and said she had never seen it in her
life. I whisked it away and hung it up in her closet, but I won't be
surprised if it is gone the next time she has to wear something warm to go
outside.
While we visited a bit before leaving, she zoned out
completely, read the newspaper and put nail polish on her nails and never so
much as looked up at any of us. I wish there were a way to prepare her for
guests, but even if you tell her 15 minutes ahead of time, she has forgotten
by the time they get there and is flustered, confused, and disoriented.
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