I went to Atria for lunch. Nothings works better than a lunch at the funny farm to cheer one up. She woke up a little more clear-headed than last time, but wandered around wearing only her pajama tops for about half an hour, trying to straighten out a necklace n her dresser for literally 30 minutes, butt flapping in the breeze. I finally got her dressed and then to the dining room. If dementia has ever been something she could hide, it no longer is. I don't know if the woman who eventually joined us, Betty (someone I had not met before), has dementia or not, but I suspect she does. My mother asked many times if this were lunch and just lots of stuff like that. I did a lot of explaining what we were doing today (flowers to the cemetery), who Paul was, etc. Nothing new. Just the new normal, with a bit more nudity involved this time.
Tuesday, April 4, 2017
My cousin Denise, the cosmetologist, had called to let me know that she was going to come and have lunch with my mother and do her nails, so I didn't feel I had to go to Atria today. But when I was on the way back from Kaiser, she called to let me know that my mother was almost out of toilet paper, which mystifies me because I bought her 6 rolls last week and this means she is going through a roll a day!
I asked Niecie how the visit had gone and for the first time she said that it was just sad. She's usually so upbeat and eager to let me know how my mother is just FINE for her. She got her singing to familiar tunes, but she zoned out after awhile and it was the same stuff I have with her when I visit Also, apparently she answered the door wearing only her pajama bottoms. Usually she's wearing only her pajama tops, but this time it was just the bottoms, which must have been quite a surprise for Niecie!
When I got home, there was a message from a friend of my mother's, who had stopped by to see her before Niecie arrived. She found her in bed, with no top on, but she was pleased that my mother seemed to recognize her and they had a fairly good visit. I suspect, however, that she won't be back.