I dodged a bullet this morning, though. Last night my mother called and said she needed to have me come over in the morning because she had "errands to run." I asked what errands she wanted to run and at first she couldn't remember, but she finally said she needed to get to the bank. "Why do you need to go to the bank?" I asked her. "Well, I have bills to pay!" she said. I asked what bills and she said she couldn't remember but she knew she had bills to pay and she had to go to the bank because she was out of checks. Trying to tell her that she had no unpaid billsl only made her angry. She always does her banking at the end of the month and she needed to get to the bank. I pointed out that it was the beginning of the month, but it was clear that she was only getting angry, so I just said I would come to get her at 10 a.m.
I hoped that her dementia would click in and that she would forget when I got there in the morning.
At 10 a.m., I knocked on her door and she greeted me and didn't say anything about the bank. I sat down and she asked what I was doing today. I told her I was working at the book store. Still nothing about the bank. She finally did mention the bank and I asked her which bills she needed to pay. We must have had the came conversation twenty five times, about how she needed to pay her rent and she had to do it at the bank. I would remind her that she wrote a check for her rent two weeks ago, she said she didn't remember, I told her to check her checkbook (which she never did). Then in a couple of seconds she would start all over again, forgetting we'd already had the conversation. She needed to go to the bank because her rent was due and she always pays it on the 3rd of the month.
Ultimately she decided to take my word that her rent was paid, that she wouldn't be thrown out of her apartment, and, when I told her how windy it was outside, she decided she didn't want to go out in the wind, but preferred to sit in her apartment, where it was warm and cozy.