When I got to her apartment, she was in bed and seemed to be sound asleep. I poured nuts into the bowl and then sat down for a bit to read and see if she woke up. She woke up, actually, with a start, sat up and couldn't find me when I told her hello (she couldn't figure out she should look behind her).
It was one of her bad days. I have seen her more agitated, so it wasn't as bad as it could be, but she said all of her insides were shaking, she didn't want to leave the apartment because she was afraid she'd do something wrong, and things just kept spinning around and around in her head. (She's been saying this, off and on, for years, so it was nothing new.)
She said people would tell her to do one thing and then someone else would tell her to do something else and she didn't know what to do at all. Well, of course, nobody was telling her to do anything, but in her head they were.
She finally decided what she had to do was to sit and be quiet and see if she could get the shaking to stop.
I tried to get her to try some deep breathing, but didn't really think that would work. She was able to follow the direction to take a long slow breath in and relax but she said that when she took the deep breath all the things whirling around in her head got worse.
I didn't want to leave her, but couldn't do anything to help her. She finally decided that maybe if she got into bed and slept things would be better. As it was after 4:30, I decided I would leave and let the aids know to check on her.
When I kissed her goodbye she asked when I would be back. I didn't think she could handle "in 6 days" so I told her "a couple of days" and she got this look of panic on her face and asked what she was going to do without me. Just the guilt I needed.
I talked with one of the aids and then I sent an e-mail to Jen, the head of the memory care unit, to let her know how things were, that I would be gone for 6 days, that Ned would stop by to see her, and if need be, they could call my cell phone and I could be home in about 9 hours.
I'm hoping they won't need to call me. And I can't even call HER because if she's still agitated, I don't want to make it worse.
Dammit.